People sometimes ask where I learned to love plants the way I do.
They imagine an old grandmother teaching me herb names beside a wood stove, or some wise neighbor handing down secrets about roots and leaves.
But the truth is quieter than that.
The first teacher I had was a prairie.
I was the youngest in the house, which meant I was the one sent outside with a bucket and a hoe. My job was weeding the garden beds, pulling out anything that dared grow where someone else thought it shouldn’t.
At the time, it felt like punishment.
But the funny thing about weeding is that you have to get close to the ground to do it.
And when you spend enough time down there on your knees, the plants start introducing themselves.
Behind the house stretched a patch of prairie grass tall enough to swallow a child whole. When the wind moved through it, the field breathed like some giant sleeping creature.
That prairie became my hiding place.
When the house felt too loud, too sharp, too full of things a child shouldn’t have to carry, I slipped out the back door and disappeared into the grasses.
Out there, nobody yelled.
Nobody demanded anything.
The prairie didn’t ask questions. It didn’t tell me I was too much or not enough.
It simply held me.
I would lie down among the stems and watch the sky through the narrow green windows between blades.
Grasshoppers clicked their quiet music.
Bees hummed like tiny engines of patience.
Sometimes the wind laid the grasses down in waves, and I imagined the whole field whispering secrets to itself.
It was there, hidden in plain sight, that I first learned something the world often forgets:
The land is not silent.
It is simply speaking a language most people never slow down enough to hear.
While I was supposed to be pulling weeds, I started noticing things.
How some plants returned no matter how often they were uprooted.
How others seemed to grow exactly where the soil needed help.
How a flower everyone called a nuisance could feed half the bees in the county.
And there she was among them — the bright yellow teacher who refuses to be discouraged.
Dandelion
Most people curse her.
I admired her.
Cut her down and she came back.
Pull her out and another sprouted.
Give her a crack in the sidewalk and she would turn it into a place of sunshine.
That little flower was the first plant that made me think:
Maybe the world doesn’t understand weeds at all.
Years passed, and life carried me through places that had nothing to do with prairies.
Hospital rooms.
Hospice bedsides.
Gardens that came and went with different seasons of living.
But the lessons of those grasses never left.
Plants still find me.
Some feed me.
Some calm me.
Some soothe the body.
Some whisper things that only make sense after years of listening.
People say I have a relationship with plants now.
That may be true.
But the deeper truth is this:
Before I ever tended a garden or learned the medicine in leaves and roots…
The land had already taken me in.
The prairie raised me.
It gave a frightened child a place to breathe.
And somewhere in those tall grasses, long before I understood the words for it, the seeds of the Granny Woman I would become were quietly planted.

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